please read quinn's writing first ^^ --- I'm sure most of you are sick of the hate. And yes, i am too. But what should you do when others are hating on you, or others? I find DNIs useless in this scenario. However, if worst comes to worst, dni. that is fine. But first... 1. Take a break. anger gets us to speak bad. Worse then we would in a calm mind. Even if you feel the insult is minor, take a break. A breath, even for a minute. This will get you calm enough to respond, and not too angry or frustrated to cause more trouble. 2. Confrontation. Perhaps the hardest step. Write a well written, not particularly angry comment about why you feel uncomfortable. Ex. commenter 1 : gosh, i distaste the new rules examplestar put in place. i think i kinda hate exampleuser's character examplestar's rper: Hey, please don't insult examplestar like that. It really rubs me in the wrong direction, and makes me kind of uncomfortable. If the confrontation persists, or they ask why, continue to write explanations. until perhaps a specific point. Commenter 1: it's just a roleplay! why are you taking this to heart? (take a breath, take a break. It is tempting to respond immediately, but you need a moment to consider your words.) You: I love my characters dearly. to see them insulted by the user hurts me as much as it hurts the character. I'd prefer if you keep the hate for my character inrp. This de-escalates the situation. 3. contact fal. If people are being rude, to the point of rule breaking, contact fal. Don't unnecessarily do this, but if it is necessary. 4. Get back up. Two is better than one. Have a friend help you out. But it is important in this step, and all of the other steps, you do NOT attack the person. Just calmly explain why you don't want the hate to your charrie to happen. 5 DNI. If all else fails, DNI. These don't work very well, in my opinion, because it doesn't stop the person from hating on you or your character. but if necessary, this might be the way to go. One last thing. If you get angry, or get agitated, take a break. You need to respond to comments like this in a clear state of mind, and anger won't help. Or. The magiclal last option...ignore it. Sometimes the best thing you need to do is...not care about it. --- i hope this helps. Feel free to critique, but i'm pretty sure i got it. Thank you for reading. Maus.
