Warning: Very long, I reached the character limit. Sleepovers: 0-4 - No, but I'd say supervised playdates (I'll be there) once they get closer to 4 is okay. But they have to be, say, next-door neighbors at a block-party. "Staying a night with Grandma and Grandpa" is acceptable if I won't be home until late. 5-7 - Playdates are okay. But I should know who this is, and know their family well enough. 8-13 - Sure! But they should be supervised by an adult in some capacity. I need to know who's coming, and basics like pickup time. I need to make sure you're comfortable with this. 14-18 Of course! Again, who it's with, when you'll be home/pickup time, and still, at least one parent should be home. Bedtimes: (weekends) 0-2 - 6, nap at 3 3-4 - 7:30 - 7:45 5-7 - 8 - 8:15 8-10 - 8:30 - 8:45 11-13 9 - 9:30 (but I'll be a bit more lenient about this by now. If you're having fun with your friends, I'll let you stay up a bit later.) 14-18 10-ish is when I'll tell suggest you'll go to bed, but I'll make you go to bed after 10:30. 11 is my limit for anything. If you're out with friends, be back by 10:30. Screen Time: 0-4 - Nothing but educational shows for young children on the older part of this age group. But not too many. I control the remote. 5-7 - Educational TV shows, but maybe not *as* youngly targeted. These will be watched after school. 8-12 - I'll get you an iPad. On the older portion of the age group, you'll get a laptop (partially for school). I won't ask questions about what they're or make them use a "Screen Time app," and I'll see how it goes. If they don't know when to stop, or their activity gets suspicious, I'll put in restrictions as needed. I'll show them some websites that I'd let them be on for things like gaming. At 11-12 I'll get them an emergency flip-phone to use if something happens while I'm out of the house. 13-18. At 14 I'll get them their first phone, nothing super high tech though, probably one of my old phones. At 16 I'll ask them if they want Social Media, and get them something higher quality. Unless their doing anything truly bad, I'll be less watchful as they approach 17 years. Makeup: 0-4 No. 5-7 - Basic care supplies, such as moisturizer in the winter so their hands don't start to hurt because they're so dry. I'll apply it for them. I'll also give them access to basic chapstick, but only until I for sure know they know how to use it. 8 - 12 I'll let them apply self care supplies (prior mentioned) as needed. 13 - 18 If they're interested in it, I'll start to open the doors for them. But I'll do it slowly, and only if they want to. Grades: A - Great! I'll first reward them until/unless it is the norm. B - As long as you're learning, I'll be fine with it. But I'll make sure we go over anything you don't understand, and make sure you study and work hard. C - I'll intervene (if this is becoming a trend), and make sure you study. I might talk to the teacher(s). We'll figure out why this is happening, and work in better homework and study habits. D - I get it, we all make mistakes, as long as you understand why you didn't do well and will try to do better next time. I'll talk to you to see how you feel. But if this is becoming a trend, I'll talk to your teacher(s) and we'll find out why this is happening. We'll work in better study and work habits. F - We all make mistakes. But again, as long as you know what you got wrong and will try to do better next time, I'll be okay with it. I'll talk to you to see how you feel about it. But if this is becoming a trend, I'll intervene and figure out why this is happening. I'll talk to your teacher(s) relevant to this, and work from there. Allowance: 0-4 - No, you're too young, and that's too much to ask of you. 5-7 - I'll bring up the concept, and if it interests you, I'll start off with simple basic things that you can easily do, like getting out napkins for everyone. Nothing that puts you at risk of breaking something. I'll make sure you know how to do the chore first. 1-2 dollars per chore. I'll teach you about money a little. I'll still buy you things you want sometimes. 8-12 - I'll start having you more chores. I'll begin teaching you dusting, how to do the laundry, set the table, ect. Only once you are ready. I'll make sure you understand how to do the chore. I'll teach you even more about money so you have a good understanding of it. If you're crazy stressed, upset, or in other situations where you have an inability to do your chores I'll excuse you from them. 5-10 dollars per week. 13 - 15 I'll give you 10-15 dollars at the end of each school week. I'll make you do regular chores, but make sure it's no more (and most likely less) than what I as a parent would do/could do. You're well educated with money by the end of this (including taxes, getting payed, wages, ect). 16 - 18 I'll encourage you to start looking into part time jobs at places like McDonalds. I'll make sure you're ready for some sort of job by the time you move out.
If you wanna, rate out of 10 (1 is bad, 10 is good) Cont. (1 more made by me) (For sleepovers, weekends only, couldn't fit it in. Playdates are fine any day of the week. For the younger portion for screen time, only calming and educational music.) Punishments 0-4 Babies are too young to understand what's okay and what's not, but I'll set certain norms and make sure that they don't get away. I'll tell them basics, and things they should learn, like "No Screaming." I'll tell them why it's not okay. Young children usually don't want to disappoint their parents so that's all I'll need. 5-7 I'll make sure to find out why they're acting out, and if I didn't teach them this in the first place. If it becomes repetitive, I'll figure out why they're acting this way. Do they need more attention? Trouble at school? 8-12 Everyone makes mistakes. I'll let them know that what they did was wrong, and again, if it's repetitive, try and find out why. I'll make sure that they don't get sucked into peer pressure. If it gets bad, I'll talk to their teacher(s) to find out if something at school is wrong if I still can't find the cause. 13 - 18 They should know how this works by know, but again, everyone makes mistakes. I'll make sure that if it's repetitive, to make it clear that this is not okay. I'll try and figure out why, and talk to teachers as needed.
